COUPLE'S COACHING

My approach to couple's work is quite different than what you may have experienced before - my method applies to you as an individual, taking the focus off your partner. I truly believe (and have witnessed in my own life) that when each person does the work to show up as their best self, the relationship doesn't require so much work. It is truly possible to stay in the honeymoon phase forever. (I bet you've never heard that before!)

So often we fall into the belief that if we could just find the right person, then it would all come together. Maybe you find this Mr./Ms. "Right", and it feels like you've struck gold. Life is wonderful, you fall in love, you can't believe your luck or imagine your life without them. Then the "honeymoon" fades... Enter the power struggle. Who IS this person?? They aren't who you thought they were - what happened?

Let's take a step back. Instead of finding the right person, you must BE the right person. What kind of partner do you want in your life? What are their character traits? How do they treat you? Get clear on these answers, and then BE that person. Your partner will either meet you there or they won't. The right person will, every time. 

I'm not invested in your relationship. What I am most concerned with is you as an individual. That doesn't mean I don't want your relationship to work for you, I just know that it starts with the individual. It starts with each partner being able to meet their own needs, manage their emotions, and acknowledge their triggers. It starts with owning your part. 

We all want the honeymoon to go on forever - it's only in the subconscious that we eventually find reasons for it to end. Memories of past experiences, habitual emotions, behaviors and reactions, hard wired beliefs - these are the things that get in the way of our bliss. And it's not your partner's job to deal with your wounds and bad habits. It's yours. 

In our work together we'll stop focusing on the other person and turn inward. No more trying to change or fix them. No more criticism. Absolutely no negativity. Just you. You'll find that being the person of your dreams is truly the key to being in the relationship of your dreams.